e-Harmony Relationship Profile for J. Richard Stevens
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values. (Source: e-Harmony)
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
- You have a strong feeling of optimism, considered favorably by most people around you. Your perception is that the bottle is half-full rather than half-empty.
- You have a high trust level for others. Occasionally you may have trusted too much and was "stung" in the process. Your natural optimism, however, tends to pull you out of such slumps.
- You may be rather emotional; that is, one will generally know how you are feeling, whether good or bad, because you let others know your moods easily.
- You have to be with people. This extends into the need to gain popularity, achieve social recognition and influence those people around you. The "bottom-line" is a strong people orientation.
- You have a strong sense of humor. You usually know when to lighten a difficult situation, amuse and entertain people.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
- You can generate enthusiasm in yourself and in other people. Your enthusiasm, often contagious, involves many people in a social activity who might not ordinarily become involved.
- You show sympathy to the feelings and needs of others. Your natural empathy style may draw others to you.
- Poised, confident, persuasive and impressive are descriptors for you. You are usually capable of speaking in a comfortable manner.
- You have a natural, outgoing style that some have labeled as the "natural salesperson." You are generally likable, talkative and socially assertive. Your primary intent is convincing or persuading people.
- One of your great strengths is your ability to communicate and talk readily. Since all strengths may be overused at times, you may sometimes talk too much.
- You are a natural communicator. You love to talk, offer jokes and make sure that everyone is having a good time. This trait is especially evident at functions and outings.
Compatible Communication Styles
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
- Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
- Start with a personal comment to "break the ice."
- Plan sufficient time to talk and listen.
- Move casually, informally.
- Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.
- Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.
- Be prepared to listen to many stories.
- Talk about expectations.
- Leave plenty of time for socializing and relating
- Plan interactions which support dreams and goals.
- Ask "How" questions to draw out opinions.
- Offer opinions and ideas that are stimulating.
Personal Relationship Characteristics
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
- Good at reconciling.
- Supportive of others.
- An excellent listener to the concerns and ideas of others.
- Empathic towards others.
- Socially poised and people-oriented.
- Work for others without taking a leadership role.
- Very patient with others.
- Never a dull moment.
- Enthusiastic about activities and involvement.
- Loyal team player.
- A very calming person with the ability to calm excited people.
- An excellent "win-win" type of negotiator.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
- Others to adhere to your high standards.
- A support system to help you get things done.
- Support of your ideas and dreams.
- Detailed information about major decisions with complete instructions.
- Many and varied activities.
- Equal relations with others.
- Time to adjust to change.
- A friendly, favorable social environment.
- An audience to perform to and entertain.
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